The only time I think of my hair as its own seperate entity is when others make my ‘fro its own seperate entity.
And if you remember the segment in Good Hair when the audience is taken to India, the number one locale for the finest quality of “good hair” to which weave makers flock, you will probably not be too surprised that here in Kolkata, my kinky hair has become its own seperate entity. Cindy has shared, “I LOVE walking behind you when we’re out. The looks on people’s faces – especially the kids…”
And what are these looks, you ask?
Well, they run the gambit. From open-mouth gapes of awe to giggles and shy waves to literally large crowds of school children following me through the streets. The looks are sometimes accompanied by words spattered in faltering English from school children and their parents alike. “Are you from South Africa?” “Your hair…how do you…your hair…I have not seen anything like that?” “How do you comb it?” “Why is it red?” “I want to touch it.” “I want to take a picture with it.”
These minor riots my gigantic red afro have caused are no more than inconvienient pieces of street theater to me. Another interruption on my journey to get to somewhere in a set amount of time which will prolong what I thought would be one quick, simple errand. I, along with Cindy, find these riots comical. I understand them; when I look out on the streets of Kolkata, I see no other head that remotely resembles mine. For miles and miles, nothing but long, sleek black hair. This morning I looked in the mirror and almost did a double take. What the hell is that, I wanted to ask. Little wonder the locals can not look away.
BUT…
It is days like yesterday when I find it difficult to laugh at the attention my hair gets. When the gapes are not of awe, but of horror. While crossing a foot bridge to get to an outdoor shopping mall, the requisite collection of school children spotted me and two of the other American teachers, Breanna and Audra. Their eyes immediately go to my hair. Because I am focused on getting to this mall and am worried about the other women in our group who have not appeared in the taxi that was supposed to be following ours, I do not pay much attention to the looks. I assume, like always, they fall into the awe or extreme curiosity category.
“I think you are scaring them, Keturah,” Breanna notices.
Fear.
My naps are causing fear?
I turn around and catch the eye of the youngest girl among the group. And I see it. Before I smile and wave at her and she returns that kindness, I see it clearly in her eyes. She is horrified.
And try as I might to focus on buying a few more kameezes, perhaps a bangle or two, I can not stop a recorded tape from playing in my head. The voice on the tape belongs to one of the Black girls who I teach back in the U.S. “I do not take pictures unless I have a new weave. I wish my mother would let me stay home when I take my weave out and haven’t had a chance to go to the salon to get my hair done.” Also on that tape is another Black girl. Her voice over is blunt. “I absolutely hate my hair.” And another: “Hair should be straight. I don’t know why anyone would want their hair to look like yours and Ms. Lavonne’s.”
I do not want to hear these students. I want to think of my hair as just an inconsequential component of my physical description, but in addition to the voices of my students, I am also remembering the conversation this morning I had with Aysha, an Indian-American teacher in the program. In her early 30s, Aysha’s mother has been trying to marry her off for a number of years now. “One day I overheard her on the phone talking to some guy she wanted to fix me up with,” Aysha rolled her eyes. “He actually asked her what complexion I was and I heard her say I was ‘wheaty.’ Can you believe that shit?”
Wheaty means she was on just the right side of brown. And ran no risk of strolling further to the other side. It is a question that Aysha’s mother and the mothers of her friends field all the time as they try to find potential suitors for their daughters.
On the foot bridge, the young girl’s look of fear dissolved the moment I smiled at her. When I waved, she flashed a timid smile and greeted me as all Indian children greet pretty much every adult they encounter, scray or not. “Hello, Ma’am.” The moment was over and Audra, Breanna and I made our way to the mall, eventually meeting up with the rest of our group.
I have had little success silencing that tape of my students, though. And I find myself unable to downplay the message that is sent when a woman of color’s complexion poses to be a potential deal breaker in a budding courtship. I would like to hold on to the belief that my hair is only of interest here because it is so unique. That the stares I get are not any different from the stares the other American teachers get as well.
The next time I cause a minor riot, I will fight harder to silence the tape of my students. I will tell myself that the desire Indian men have for lighter skinned women is not a new phenomenon among cultures that have been colonized. The “wheat” test is no different than the “brown paper bag” test. I will remind myself that the gigantic red afro is not an expression of my racial pride or some trite political perspective.
I will not search the faces of the young, counting those that register trauma.